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Dating Mistakes That Men Should Avoid

October 29th, 2013 4:23 am

Dating is indeed an art to be mastered. There are no real rules for that. You can only have good suggestions and advices. All over the world, men go into dating at certain points in their lives. Single men in particular are always looking for ladies to date. Oftentimes, men do make common dating mistakes. In most cases, such mistakes end up ruining their dating experience. If you’re man interested in dating, there’s a need for you to know more about the common mistakes and how to avoid them. Here are some of the mistakes:

Getting too physical too fast
Physical attraction plays a big role for men in dating, but pushing a new relationship into sexual territory too soon is a big mistake that frequently backfires. This means potential partners must work to cultivate a sense of trust and mutual respect. A man might be eager to kiss on the first date, while the woman isn’t ready. A man might be “all hands” while the woman wishes he’d keep them to himself. Ere on the side of caution. Back off and give her the security that comes with knowing you can show restraint.

Talking too much and listening too little
When a woman dates a man, she is asking herself, Will he see me for who I really am? Will he take my dreams, goals, and fears seriously? Many men supply the answer, all right, but not the one she was looking for. They talk and talk about themselves as if reading their resume. Here’s a tip: There’s no need to tell your date how wonderful you are. Let her discover it for herself. Instead, spend the evening asking insightful questions and listening to every word she says.

Rudeness
Some men fail to realize that their date is looking for clues to how he will treat her in the way he deals with others. A man who barks at the waitress when something is not quite right — or speaks condescendingly to the valet who parks the car, or tells a hurtful joke — better not count on a second date.

Flirting with other women
On a date, a woman wants to feel she has your undivided attention. No matter how discreet you think you are, when you “check out” other women in the room, she will notice. It sends a clear signal you are not interested primarily in her, but are keeping your options open. To avoid this mistake, make sure your eyes stay focused on your date and mind stays focused on what she says.

Tips for Guys in a Speed Dating Event

August 14th, 2013 8:28 am

Among the mating rituals of human beings, dating has always been a major factor. Some prefer to make things slow, while others do not want to waste time, especially those individuals who may not have the luxury of going on several dates before finding out if they are actually compatible with that particular individual or not. Because of this, speed dating has become the recent trend in the dating world. The following tips are helpful for guys who wish to catch the perfect soulmate for them in an world full of beautiful ladies.

1. Don’t “Examine” the Girls

When you get to the venue, take some time to familiarise yourself with the surroundings. Have a walk around, get a drink, chat to the barman. Don’t start checking out the girls – you’ll have plenty of time for that when you’re speed dating them.

If you walk in and immediately start scoping out “the soulmate” you’ll look desperate and creepy. Remember, you have a very limited time to make an impact, and a good first impression can give you a real head start.

2. As Fresh As Flowers

Make sure you it’s clear to everyone that you’re happy, relaxed and having a good time with your friend. The best way to do this is just to get a drink, sit down and chat together. It will get you in a good mood, make you less nervous and will make you act more natural in circumstances many find stressful. Happiness is contagious, so you will likely soon find yourself surrounded by smiling faces.

3. Talk to a Few Girls Before It Starts

By casually chatting to some of the girls before the event properly starts, you can send out the message that you’re socially competent and don’t NEED speed dating as such.

Conversations before the speed dating start can also help to build a bit of rapport – when you see the girl in the date you don’t have to start from scratch. You can simply carry on from where you left off, which gives you a chance to reveal another layer to your personality.

4. Don’t Mention Speed Dating

When you’re chatting with the girls before the speed dating starts, talk to them as if you’ve approached them in a normal bar. Everyone thinks speed dating is a bit weird (which it is), so try to make everything seem as normal and comfortable as possible.

Don’t draw attention to what you’re about to do. After all, you only have a few minutes to impress the girls, so why waste time talking about something neither of you cares about?

5. Why Do You Stay Here?

Prepare some answers to some common questions like this. For example, most girls will ask you something like: “why are you speed dating?” or “so what brings you here?”

You’re pretty much guaranteed to be asked these sorts of questions, so give them a bit of thought. You want to tell the truth, but also to make sure your answer puts you in good light:

Good answer: “I just thought it would be fun”

Good answer: “I like meeting new people”

Bad answer: “My mate persuaded me to come”. This isn’t true, and will only make it look like you’re someone who does what other people tell you.

Bad answer: “I don’t know”. This makes you look indecisive and unimaginative.

Oh and don’t react by asking the girl the same question. It’s not a pleasant question to be asked, and there are better directions to take the conversation in the limited time you have.